Let’s talk about sex?
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Normally, I’m the sort of girl who likes sex a lot. Wants to have it a lot. Thinks about it a lot.
But lately? Not so much. For instance, Princess and I broke up about two (three?) weeks ago and the thought of sex hasn’t even crossed my mind since then. Not to mention the fact that, for a variety of reasons, I didn’t really have a lot of interest in it in the last month we were dating anyway. Which hasn’t really happened to me much in my life.
So what’s this all about? I don’t understand it. Have any of you ever gone through this?
And it’s not that I’m…well, I mean, I’m still taking care of my own business and all that. But I have absolutely no interest in going through the motions with another person. The thought of it seems like a chore. I feel like I’ve been married for 20 years and I forgot what sex is all about. WHAT HAPPENED? HELP!
I kind of think it’s partially because making the sex means involving someone else in my life and, frankly, I’m just not all that interested. And I know what you’re going to say. Just find someone and do the business. It doesn’t mean I have to date the person. But you see…I’ve tried that. And dudes get all attached to me. I don’t like it. I don’t want someone all attached to me right now. Hell, maybe ever.
So what do I do? How do I get it back? Does it just come back naturally? WHY HAS THE SEX ABANDONED ME?
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about 7 months ago
It comes back. And when it does… it comes back kicking and screaming and pulling hair and five different kinds of crazy.
Believe me… I know. I can’t do anything without imagining the male involved on to… nevermind.
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Jeney´s last blog ..Letters to My Morning
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:52 am
I feel sure it will, but this is just…weird.
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about 7 months ago
I’ve had the same feeling once in a while. It’s just a cycle. Your libido will come back, full force, trust me.
In the meantime, I suggest watching lots of porn.
Or ya know, you should be doing that anyway.
Right?
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PQ´s last blog ..Awkward.
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:52 am
I guess this is my first cycle then. Now I feel like we’re talking about periods.
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about 7 months ago
I think you just need and want some time to make/have other priorities in your life and while it’s a fine idea to just make the sex, something weird has happened to dudes that makes that practically impossible.
.-= April´s last blog ..A Week in Review…random and useless is in the eye of the beholder =-.
April´s last blog ..A Week in Review…random and useless is in the eye of the beholder
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:52 am
Fuckin’ MEN and their fuckin’ VAGINAS. Ugh.
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about 7 months ago
Sometimes, you’re just too busy for the sex. I know exactly what you mean. I mean, I’m just as driven for the sex as any girl, maybe more so, but sometimes, I don’t have much interest. Too busy!
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JerzeyGrrl´s last blog ..What not to say
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:32 am
Maybe that’s it.
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about 7 months ago
It’ll come back. It is like when you eat too much ice cream and swear you never want to see ice cream again.
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Narm´s last blog ..Aw, Crap
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:33 am
Hmmm…I don’t think that’s ever happened to me with ice cream.
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about 7 months ago
I have been like that with a guy where I wasn’t interested in having sex, but I realized its not that I didn’t want to have sex, i didn’t want to with him.
But it will come back to you. It’s like riding a bike. Or since you are from Texas then a horse.
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:34 am
Ha. I don’t know how to ride a bike OR a horse. But I do know how to ride a man. I’ll just assume it’s the same principal.
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about 7 months ago
Oh nooo!!! You’ve lost your mojo!! Don’t worry, I lost mine for about a year. Seriously, I’m pretty sure may vag closed up for a while. It was like in scary movie where bats fly out and it was covered with cobwebs. Then it came back and I am pretty sure my actions could only be considered floozy-ish. Or whore-ish, what ev. Embrace this time of abstinence… or do what they said and watch some porn! And yes we should def do drinks!
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carissajaded´s last blog ..Post it note Tuesday and some realizations
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Mary Reply:
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:27 am
Can’t help you with this one. But I want in on the drinks with Carissa!
I’m sure it will come back. You’re still recovering from all the Princess smothering, I think.
.-= Mary´s last blog ..You’ll Shoot Your Eye Out Kid =-.
Mary´s last blog ..You’ll Shoot Your Eye Out Kid
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:34 am
If bats fly out of my vagina, I’m calling you to find out what to do. I mean that.
DRINKS!
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about 7 months ago
You’re just getting old. 30! Christ, maybe your men-o-pause kicked in.
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:35 am
I bet you’re right. Freakin’ 30, man…
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about 7 months ago
I’m pretty sure I’ve only masturbated twice since September. That is so far from normal for me that I don’t even know what to say. Combined with the fact that new guy and I haven’t reached that point yet…I’m about to scream. Not in a good way. So basically, I’ll trade you if you want.
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:35 am
The masturbation problem is ON YOU.
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about 7 months ago
I think I’ve lost my mind because it *seems* like I just read a pretty girl’s blog and she said that she wanted to find a guy to have sex with, but doesn’t want him hanging around and trying to start a relationship.
Holy shit… You’re a unicorn!!!
.-= KeepingYouAwake´s last blog ..Where do you Want it? =-.
KeepingYouAwake´s last blog ..Where do you Want it?
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:35 am
Dude. Men have turned into GIANT VAGINAS. I don’t like it one bit.
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KeepingYouAwake Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 11:41 am
Whoa, just because the Dallas water supply got contaminated with GIANT VAGINA men, you don’t have to generalize… Jeez.
.-= KeepingYouAwake´s last blog ..I’m Getting Stupidr =-.
KeepingYouAwake´s last blog ..I’m Getting Stupidr
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shine Reply:
February 4th, 2010 at 2:06 pm
I’m pretty sure it does. Because I live in Dallas and therefore have to deal with the Vagina Pool. Which sounds like it would be a lot of fun, I admit, but when you’re looking for a dude…
about 7 months ago
I think you hit the nail on the head (pun intended)- you’re not ready to invite someone new into your life; so you have two options: hit-it-and-quit-it or take care of yourself. With time, all this shall pass and you’ll be back on the saddle!
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Graygrrrl´s last blog ..It Isn’t So Much Random, As It Is Planned
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:36 am
Guess we’ll see. But the hit-it-and-quit-it thing is the PROBLEM. They get all attached and clingy. Ick.
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about 7 months ago
ugh, know what you mean about guys developing FEEEELIIIINGS. girls are supposed to be the ones who can’t handle emotionless sex, but HA. not in MY experience!
i wouldn’t worry – i suspect once you’re ready to get back on the horse, so to speak, you’ll be cravin’ it just like you usually do.
.-= Alice´s last blog ..weekended! or, I HAZ A TATTOOO! =-.
Alice´s last blog ..weekended! or, I HAZ A TATTOOO!
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:36 am
Whew.
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about 7 months ago
I don’t think I’ve ever had much of a sex drive, unless there’s a person I want to have it WITH. Weird, I know.
So, yeah, I’m not much help. But maybe a little John Hamm a la Mad Men viewing could be?
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LiLu´s last blog ..Solicited Advice Welcome
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:36 am
Haha. So you’re saying I should really OPEN that season 1 DVD and watch it, eh?
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about 7 months ago
Me time. It’s a good thing. Enjoy it while it lasts. If it doesn’t come back when you eventually meet the next guy that makes you all mushy inside — and you will — then you can worry.
.-= Chris´s last blog ..Look out Miami! =-.
Chris´s last blog ..Look out Miami!
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shine Reply:
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:38 am
Oh, I love “Me Time” more than the average person. Trust me. I appreciate it. This was not about whining because I’m not WITH someone. I don’t want to be with someone at all right now.
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about 7 months ago
It’s a post-break-up thing I think. even if the break was completely mutual and amicable and all that shit, I always come away really not feeling like having sex with anything right now thanks.
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