• Oh look at how my fat doesn’t affect you.

    I’ve kind of had enough, y’all. Stop being hateful to fat people. They’re not DOING ANYTHING TO YOU.

    Yes, it’s completely possible to not be fat. Yes, I get that it’s not always so pretty. But seriously, fuck off. It’s not affecting you. And don’t even start talking to me about your health care premiums. Be pissed off at insurance companies.

    That fat person you’re making fun of? That person has feelings, too. And believe me, he or she is beating himself up more than you could for basically everything consumed. You’re not helping, you’re just being an asshole.

    Think for a second about how you would feel if someone criticized everything you ate. Or drank. Or wore. Maybe you already do this to yourself. Stop taking your own issues and insecurities out on those who weigh more than you.

    While we’re at it, you skinny folk can maybe stop complaining about being fat in front of those of us who are larger than you. I get that you have issues and insecurities, too. That’s fine. Feel free to express them. But while trying on clothes with your size 12 friend, please think before you complain about having to get a size 4 instead of a size 2. A little consideration goes a long way.

    And look, a fashion faux pas is a fashion faux pas. I’m not saying that it’s awful to be a little horrified by the woman in the bright yellow shirt and the see-through leggings, no matter what size she is. I’m all for making fun of people. But a larger person eating a cheeseburger shouldn’t be cause for your rude commentary. There’s nothing about it that affects you or anyone else.

    The fact that our society and culture is so obsessed with thin-ness is really frightening. Being attractive is 75% about being thin (maybe more, maybe less, depending on where you live). It almost doesn’t even matter what your face looks like, as long as you’re not fat. Certainly, the focus is no longer on intelligence or kindness or being a decent human. Just be skinny. (I know not everyone feels this way, I’m speaking about the overall, general feeling of things in the country right now, not about you personally.)

    I wouldn’t consider myself fat, but I’m not a tiny person. I wear a size 12. I try to eat healthy, I work out, I try to stay active. Size 10 – 12 happens to be where my body is the most comfortable.

    And yet, while walking home from the bar several months ago, some dude felt the need to yell that I was fat. To me. From across the street.

    So to those of you who feel the need to make fat people feel like they are less than human, maybe you should think about what it says about you that you find that acceptable. What are we doing to you?


  1. lexa says:

    I will never get the need for strangers to tell others they are fat. I get it too.

    Thanks for the memo, fuckers.

  2. baltimoregal says:


  3. Rahul says:

    I’m more offended by the 60 year old at the supermarket wearing a shirt that says,


  4. Erin says:

    At the risk of quoting a Meg Cabot title: size 10-12 is not fat. :)

    In today’s fucked up society we seem to consider anybody whose bones cannot be seen through their skins as fat. I blame Tyra Banks…because it’s easy and I do not actually know her.

    • shine says:

      Actually, Tyra is really against fat shaming. It’s like…her one redeeming quality. But yeah, she’s awful.

  5. I fucking love this post. LOVE it.

  6. Word. Up. Girl.

    Coming from a family of overweight/obese people, it’s horrible and fucked up and there’s no reason to add to the daily struggles that people face even before they leave the house.

  7. Chris says:

    So, not being a woman, I suspect I’m more or less excluded from really understanding this, apart from knowing how upsetting it is to be criticized by morons. But I see enough of the insecurity in my wife to know how corrosive it can be. Great post. Keep at it. Oh, and you’re not fat. I’ve seen pictures.

  8. Juliana says:

    Size 10 – 12 is definitely not fat! I hate that misconception.

    Love this post!

  9. Narm says:

    Um – skinny girls have no boobs so they are actually evil. There should be a self-help book called, “Eat Your Way Out of That A-Cup”. Boobies trump all.

  10. Tom says:

    Gender doesn’t really matter, Chris. I’m 290 lbs. Relatively big guy. 44″ waist. I’ve taken shit for my weight my entire life. Left me with horrible self confidence issues. Sometimes I feel like I’m not good enough for anyone. I used to swim. A lot. I moved to Florida and started swimming at the beaches there and just got torn apart. The worst was when a girl accidentally brushed up against me in high school and said, “Oh my god, I touched him” in disgust. Hell, I don’t even swim at the pool at my apartment anymore because I still get disgusted looks from the other people there, like I’m not supposed to be there. I’ve gotten a lot better about it over the years, but it still lingers a bit. My general attitude towards people talking trash to me about it is that they can go fuck themselves. I’m not really at a point where I can’t say it doesn’t bother me a little, though. My friends say I shouldn’t let it bother me, but they don’t really get how much it gets in your head.

  11. Zan says:

    I totally agree with you on this, Shine…I think it’s shitty and hateful for someone to make fun of another person for their weight…thin does not always equal healthy, and I’d rather be pudgy than be a bag of bones anyday. I’m 5’8″, weigh 195 pounds, wear a size 14, and I don’t have diabetes, high blood pressure, or any of that other so-called insurance premium raising stuff that other people are so concerned about. If you’re going to be concerned about my weight, be concerned about it for ME, not because you think it’s the reason that you pay high insurance premiums. People always have to find something about someone else to make themselves feel good about themselves, and it makes me sick. How can you feel good about being an asshole?

  12. Nigel says:

    I’m sorry, but I was too blinded by your shocking and angelic beauty to even be able to read this post of yours.

    Seriously: can you turn down the aching majesty that is your hotness?

    Some of us are trying to function here without having how gorgeous you are beating us over the head.

    I mean really.

  13. Canada has it right, I think. Better experience for everyone.


  14. Ugh. I so feel this. And the way you said all of it is spot-on. I already feel shitty enough about my body – & great about my face, but who’s paying any attention to it when there’s – GASP!!!! – all that size 14 fat going on?!?

    I’m tired of it. And I’m tired of me, too. But I’m tired of other people telling me I should be tired of me…


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